How to Talk to Girls Online

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You want to impress a girl online and show her how awesome you are, but you're not sure how exactly to start the conversation or what things to talk about. You're not alone! Talking to girls online can feel perplexing, but it's surprisingly easy. If you're looking for chatting tips, tricks, and examples, you've come to the right place. We've answered some of your top questions about talking to girls online so that you can be ready the next time you want to strike up a conversation with a girl you like.

Question 1 of 5:

How can you start a conversation with a girl?

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    Ask an open-ended question . An open-ended question requires more than a "yes" or "no" answer, so it's a great way to get a conversation going. Any open-ended question that piques her interest will work. You could try an ice breaker question, something a little flirty, or a random question to learn more about her. For example: [1]
    • What kind of stuff do you like to do on the weekends?
    • What’s a pretty girl like you doing on a site like this?
    • What good books have you read recently?
    • What’s your idea of the perfect day?
    • If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
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    Just say hi . Sometimes simplicity is best! Striking up a conversation with a simple hello will let her know you’re interested in talking without putting too much pressure on her. Try something like: [2]
    • Hi! How’s your day going so far?
    • Just wanted to say hi!
    • Hey, what have you been up to lately?
    • Hi, hope your week is going well.
    • Hey, what’s up?
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Question 2 of 5:

What can I say to get a girl's attention online?

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    People love talking about themselves, and the girl you’re interested in might appreciate that you know a little bit about her. Take a look at her profile and try to see what her job or hobbies are, then come up with a question about them. For example: [3]
    • It’s so cool that you’re a firefighter. What’s the hardest part of your job?
    • I saw that you like the band MGMT. Have you seen them live yet?
    • You’re in school to be a veterinarian? How’s that going?
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    Tell her about yourself . A conversation isn’t just a one-way street. As you chat, try inserting a few facts about yourself into your convo to pique her interest. [4] You could try: [5]
    • I’m in school right now to be a vet tech. It’s fun, but my schedule’s pretty busy!
    • I grew up in Florida, but I moved to Mississippi when I was 18.
    • I have 2 dogs that I love to go on hikes with.
    • If she's mentioned an interest that you both have in common, talk about that!
    • Reader Poll: We asked 183 wikiHow readers, and 59% agreed that bonding over a common interest is a great way to start a conversation with someone online. [Take Poll]
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Question 3 of 5:

How can I make a girl laugh?

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    Ask her goofy questions . Questions are great because they need an answer, so they keep the conversation going. You can try asking her a few of these to make her giggle as you two chat. Try: [6]
    • If you were a vegetable, what would you be and why?
    • If you worked at a circus, what job would you want?
    • Would you rather drink a cup of ketchup or a cup of mustard?
    • Would you do well in a zombie apocalypse?
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    Send her memes or funny pictures. They never get old! Scroll through a few you have saved on your phone, or find ones on Instagram or Twitter . Pick out a few that she’d like to make her giggle by finding ones that you like. [7]
    • You could also try a few gifs if you want to send something a little more dynamic.
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Question 4 of 5:

What questions make a girl blush?

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    Turn a compliment into a question. Everyone likes to hear good things about themselves, and you can make your compliment into a question, too. Try one or two of these throughout the conversation: [8]
    • You know you’re amazing, right?
    • Have I ever told you how much I like your laugh?
    • You drive me crazy, you know that?
    • Have you noticed me noticing you yet?
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    Try a little flirting . You don’t have to go over the top with your questions, but a little fun flirting never hurt anyone. Use these questions if you’d like to steer the conversation into relationship territory: [9]
    • What would you say if I asked you out?
    • What’s your type?
    • What’s behind that smile of yours?
    • Want to go on an adventure?
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Question 5 of 5:

Where are the best places to chat with girls online?

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    Go for dating apps to find girls interested in dating . If you’re really looking for someone to have a relationship with, join a dating app. [10] You can make a profile and match with other people who are also looking to date (or hook up). Common apps include: [11]
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    Most people on social media aren’t necessarily looking for people to date, but they might just be open to it. If you feel brave, slide into a girl’s DMs to see if she’s interested in chatting with you. You could try: [13]
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    How can I impress a girl online?
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    Consider having someone you really respect look over your online profiles to help you determine what information you should include or take out. A lot of times, we think we're being funny or being ourselves, and it really does help to have another person review it with you. Also, rather than just describing yourself with adjectives in your profile, try being specific. If you're creative, for example, say why and how you are creative.
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      2. ↑ David Kornel Z. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 24 January 2020.
      3. ↑ David Kornel Z. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 24 January 2020.
      4. ↑ Lisa Shield. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 13 December 2018.
      5. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/dating-toxic-or-tender/202206/why-first-moves-often-go-unnoticed
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      9. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/flirting
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      2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/flirting
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      To talk to girls online, start by adding a profile picture that shows you in the best light, since this will be the first thing a girl sees about you. When you first message her, ask how she’s doing or just say hello. Then, ask open-ended questions, like, “What do you like to do for fun?” to find out about her. When you find something you both like, ask deeper questions about that and tell her about your own opinions. Don’t be afraid to compliment her once or twice during the conversation to let her know you like her. If you live near the girl you’re talking to, ask to meet up once you’ve been talking for a while to take your relationship to the next level. For more tips, including how to interact with a girl on social media, read on!

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