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Stop negative thoughts from ruining your day (and life)
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Negative thoughts can be a persistent, invisible weight that you carry from day to day. We get how overwhelming and even isolating these thoughts can be—but you don’t have to struggle on your own. We’ll walk you through plenty of strategies to help you eliminate negative thinking and get bad thoughts out of your head, like practicing mindfulness, practicing gratitude, and restructuring your unwanted thoughts. We’ll even take a look at the most common types of negative thoughts so you’ll have an easier time acknowledging and getting rid of them.
Things You Should Know
- Analyze a specific negative thought: how is it helping you? Try reworking it into a more positive thought instead.
- Distract yourself from negative thoughts by doing a fun activity.
- Vent to a trusted friend or loved one about your negative thoughts, or write about them in a journal.
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Section 1 of 3:
Dealing with Bad Thoughts in the Moment
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Reframe the bad thought as something positive. You can actually make yourself feel better and rewire your brain to think more positively by reframing negative thoughts whenever they come up. For example: [1] X Trustworthy Source National Health Service (UK) Public healthcare system of the UK Go to source
- Bad thought: Everyone at work must hate me. I’m such an awkward person.
- Better way to reframe it: People at work probably don't feel that strongly about me. I’m my own person with unique quirks. Genuine, worthwhile people will accept me for who I am.
- This takes practice and can feel a bit unnatural at first, but if you practice, eventually it will be second nature!
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Vent about your feelings to a friend or loved one. Share whatever’s on your mind, whether it’s a rough day at school or a tough meeting at work. Putting your negative thoughts out in the open can help you acknowledge them from a clearer, more grounded perspective. If your concerns end up being serious, your support system can help you figure out a helpful and actionable solution. [2] X Trustworthy Source HelpGuide Nonprofit organization dedicated to providing free, evidence-based mental health and wellness resources. Go to source
- Prioritize friends and loved ones who can lend a listening ear in an open and nonjudgmental way. If a friend or loved one historically makes a big deal out of nothing, they might not be the best person to vent to.
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Do something fun or kind for yourself. Think about the activities that make you happiest and most at ease, whether that’s cooking a meal after a long day or catching up on your favorite TV show. Distract yourself from these unpleasant thoughts by adding these positive, uplifting hobbies into your day. While they might not eliminate negative thinking altogether, these activities can help put you in a more positive headspace.
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Journal away any negativity in your mind. Journaling can be a valuable way to clear your mind and get rid of bad thoughts in the process. [3] X Trustworthy Source University of Rochester Medical Center Leading academic medical center in the U.S. focused on clinical care and research Go to source There’s no “right” or “wrong” way to journal—simply write what’s on your mind in a way that makes sense to you.
- Drawing can also be an effective way to journal for some people. Express yourself in a way that makes sense to you!
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Release your negative thoughts with mindfulness. Sit and focus on the present, allowing your thoughts to drift in and out of your mind. Instead of focusing on your negative thoughts, try viewing them as a passive observer. Instead of holding onto those negative thoughts, envision them floating away and out of your mind. [4] X Trustworthy Source HelpGuide Nonprofit organization dedicated to providing free, evidence-based mental health and wellness resources. Go to source
- As you do this, try to stay grounded and centered. How does it feel when you breathe in and out? What other feelings are floating through your mind?
- Try to get in the habit of practicing mindfulness regularly. The more you adopt a mindful headspace, the easier it’ll be to get rid of negativity and stop negative thoughts from overtaking your mind.
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Reducing Bad Thoughts Over Time
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Give yourself a specific amount of time each day to think negatively. Instead of trying to suppress your negative thoughts and worries throughout the day, create a set period (like 15 or 20 minutes) where no thoughts are “off-limits.” Let yourself think as many negative thoughts as you want during this period—but once it’s over, stop actively indulging any negative thoughts. [5] X Trustworthy Source HelpGuide Nonprofit organization dedicated to providing free, evidence-based mental health and wellness resources. Go to source
- Schedule these sessions at the same time each day, whether that’s first thing in the morning or right before you head to bed.
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Infuse humor into the more negative aspects of your daily life. Instead of defaulting to self-defeating thoughts, give yourself permission to laugh at a frustrating or otherwise negative situation. The more you laugh, the better you’ll feel overall. [6] X Trustworthy Source Mayo Clinic Educational website from one of the world's leading hospitals Go to source
- Practice making laughter your default reaction to frustrating and negative situations (within reason). For instance, instead of getting (rightfully) annoyed at a traffic jam, you might laugh at how absurd and predictable it is.
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Practice gratitude each day. Using your phone or a physical notebook, record a few things that you’re really thankful for—these can be as simple as sunny weather or a kind driver letting you turn onto a busy road. When you cultivate gratitude, you give negativity less room to thrive in your headspace. [7] X Trustworthy Source HelpGuide Nonprofit organization dedicated to providing free, evidence-based mental health and wellness resources. Go to source
- Try to practice gratitude around the same time each day so it becomes a habit.
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Start your day with positive affirmations. The more negative thoughts you think, the more negatively you’ll feel and see the world around you. Instead, cultivate positivity by repeating positive and uplifting affirmations to yourself each day. [8] X Research source
- I am a capable person who deserves success.
- I trust my instincts.
- I will set aside time for the things that make me happy.
- I’m allowed to smile, relax, and enjoy life.
- I will look for positive opportunities everywhere I go.
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Speak to yourself in the way you’d speak to a friend. When an especially harsh, negative thought worms its way into your mind, take a step back and examine the thought critically. You wouldn’t speak in that negative, critical tone to a friend, so you shouldn’t speak to yourself that way, either. [9] X Trustworthy Source Mayo Clinic Educational website from one of the world's leading hospitals Go to source
- Reframe a thought like “I can never do anything right” to something more compassionate and caring, like “Things didn’t go your way this time, but you’ll do better next time!”
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Set aside a few minutes for mindful meditation. For a few minutes each day, find a peaceful place to comfortably sit and relax. Focus on inhaling through your nose and exhaling through your mouth. As you do this, pay attention to the physical aspects of breathing, letting your mind drift without lingering on any specific thoughts. If you do latch onto a negative thought, give yourself permission to let go and focus back on your breathing. [10] X Trustworthy Source HelpGuide Nonprofit organization dedicated to providing free, evidence-based mental health and wellness resources. Go to source
- Aim to mindfully meditate for around 10 minutes. It’s okay if you can’t meditate every day, but try to do it a few times each week.
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Incorporate exercise into your daily routine. Look for opportunities to get your blood pumping throughout the day, whether that’s taking a walk around the neighborhood, going for a bike ride, or taking a swim. Working out releases feel-good chemicals in your brain, which helps you to feel better overall. Exercise also has other benefits for your mental health and well-being, like: [11] X Research source
- Boosting your self-esteem
- Providing a helpful distraction from bad thoughts
- Giving you a chance to spend time with friends
- Improving your sleep
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Meet with a therapist. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a specialized type of therapy that targets your bad thoughts at their roots. While it’s often used to help combat certain mental illnesses (e.g., depression, anxiety, etc.), CBT can be an effective treatment for anyone experiencing negative thinking. In short, CBT is all about identifying and restructuring negative thoughts into something more productive. [12] X Trustworthy Source Mayo Clinic Educational website from one of the world's leading hospitals Go to source
- Click or tap here to find a CBT therapist near you.
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QuestionWhat if I never get rid of my bad thoughts?Sydney Axelrod is a certified life coach and the owner of Sydney Axelrod LLC, a life coaching business focused on professional and personal development. Through one-on-one coaching, digital courses, and group workshops, Sydney works with clients to discover their purpose, navigate life transitions, and set and accomplish goals. Sydney has over 1,000 hours of relevant coaching certifications and holds a BBA in Marketing and Finance from Emory University.As humans, we're probably always going to have those thoughts, and that's okay. It's not about getting rid of them—it's more about seeing if you can be in a relationship with these thoughts and not resist them so much. Instead of fighting and clashing with these thoughts, think "Thanks for showing up, but I'm going to choose to listen to a different thought."
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QuestionHow can I overcome self-doubt?Sydney Axelrod is a certified life coach and the owner of Sydney Axelrod LLC, a life coaching business focused on professional and personal development. Through one-on-one coaching, digital courses, and group workshops, Sydney works with clients to discover their purpose, navigate life transitions, and set and accomplish goals. Sydney has over 1,000 hours of relevant coaching certifications and holds a BBA in Marketing and Finance from Emory University.With self-doubt, try to identify the negative beliefs underneath your thoughts. It might be something like, "I'm not good enough" or "I don't have it in me to be successful." Then, from that place of awareness, you have a choice; do I listen to this or not? You have the power to change and say, "Actually, having this belief isn't helpful to me. A more helpful belief is that I am enough." Then, practice living into this healthier, changed belief. It's okay if you have to fake it 'til you make it!
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If you want to get rid of bad thoughts, try pausing whatever you’re doing and taking some deep breaths to help yourself calm down. You might even go for a walk or listen to some calming music to clear your head. Once you’ve had a chance to relax, try focusing on the present that you can control rather than the future, which you can’t control. For example, if you’re thinking about how you’re going to fail your test tomorrow, realize that your future worries are only ruining the present. If you still have bad thoughts, talk them through with someone you trust so you don’t have to keep them bottled up inside. Keep in mind that recurring bad thoughts are sometimes caused by a mood disorder, so make sure to talk to your doctor if they don’t go away. To learn how to begin a meditation practice to combat bad thoughts, read on.
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