How to Hide That You've Been Crying

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Although crying is a very healthy thing to do, you don’t always want others to know that you’ve been crying. You fear you might be judged for being weak, or you simply don’t want people to ask you what is wrong. Whatever the reason, there are steps you can take to make yourself presentable to the public, and issues to address should you be going through difficult times.

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  1. You may have to wait a few minutes before you stop crying. You will eventually stop. It is better to let yourself cry than force yourself to stop. Pent-up emotions are being expressed when you cry which allows the body to release tension and recover.
    • Try to bring yourself back into the present moment and remind yourself that you're safe right now, this can help you to settle down.
    • Try using your five sense to get back into the present moment. What do you see within the room? Can you think about things that you might smell, if you smell anything, you can notice if you taste anything? By using your senses you can calm down and recover from crying.
    • If you are in a time crunch and you need to stop crying, tell yourself, “You need to stop crying and find the calm inside you.” Repeat this until you stop.
    • You can also purposely startle yourself. This will create a quick shift in your emotions and will help you stop. Simply saying, “Oh!” might do the trick.
    • Redirect your emotions with a pinch to your arm. This can cause enough of a distraction to switch off your crying response.
    • Once you have stopped crying, distract your thoughts away from the reason for crying. If you just received news that someone passed away, focus on what you need to do that day.
    • Crying is related to many positive events as well as sad or maddening events. Allow yourself to cry until you stop.
  2. When you cry, facial nerves are stimulated, which causes the skin to increase in temperature. Cool water splashed on your face will lessen the heat. Let the water run over your hands and wrists and splash your face a few times. Use a towel or whatever is available to pat your face dry.
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  3. You want to clear your nose of mucus. Once you've blown your nose, look in a mirror to make sure your nose is clean.
  4. Take a few cleansing breaths to release the residual emotions and fill your lungs. Crying can constrict your breathing, and slow breathing can restore normal function. Your body will benefit from the additional oxygen.
    • Avoid rapid breathing that can turn into hyperventilating, which can trigger a panic attack. [1]
  5. When a person cries, blood rushes to the face, eyes, and nose areas. Once you stop crying, the skin will eventually return to its normal color.
    • Use a cold compress and place it over your eyes, nose, and face. This will speed up the calming process.
    • If you are at work or elsewhere and a cold compress is not available, wet paper towels and spin them in the air to cool them. This will do the trick.
    • Fan your face using a piece of paper or whatever you can find to allow air to rush over your face. This will cool your face, which will reduce the redness.
  6. If you were wearing makeup when you cried, use a tissue to gently pat your face dry. Remove any residual or smudged makeup with a makeup remover, then reapply what you removed.
  7. If you don’t have any eye drops, you will simply need to put your sunglasses on to hide your eyes.

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  1. If you want to make sure you are presentable, the mirror will tell you. If your hair looks good, your face looks good, and your clothes are situated like you want, then you are ready.
  2. You might need to give yourself a little boost to rise to the occasion of facing the crowd. Try some positive self-talk and say, “Okay, you’ve got this. You are going to hold it together. We are moving on.” [2]
  3. The feelings of whatever it was that made you cry might return to upset you again. If you start to feel emotional, stop yourself and substitute a positive thought. [3] Pick a subject matter that is not closely related to the reason you are crying. The goal is to refocus your attention away from the issue at hand.
    • Tell yourself, “You are going to think about something positive like how much you love going to the beach. Yes, that is what you are focusing on now.”
    • Think about a project you are working on. Make a mental list of the steps you need to take and when you will get them accomplished. Imagine how happy you will be when it is complete. This will carry you out of the emotional darkness you might be feeling.
  4. You may not be an actor, but your body doesn’t know that. The power of suggestion can be very effective. [4] As you enter the crowd, perk up, smile, and tell yourself, “You are feeling good and you are happy.” Send yourself on your way filled with positive thoughts.
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  1. You were crying for some reason. If you have gone through a difficult time, you need to allow yourself to feel the emotions that made you cry. You also need to determine if the frequency and duration of your crying are excessive.
    • Was this an isolated incident or something that is happening often?
    • If you find yourself crying uncontrollably for an extended period of time, you need to talk to someone about getting help so you can learn how to control crying in a healthy manner.
    • Be kind to yourself during this time. Forcing yourself to stop crying is difficult to manage. Suppressing your feelings can cause negative results.
  2. If the reason for your emotional upheaval is due to a relationship, work, or family conflict, you must communicate your concerns. To resolve any conflict, you need to find a way to be heard.
    • Write down your concerns. This will help you focus on the problem.
    • Next, write possible solutions to these problems.
    • Practice saying your concerns out loud so you will be calm, prepared, and focused for the conversation. [5]
    • Communicate with the person to express your concerns. Start by saying, “I’ve been thinking a lot about what has been going on and I want to resolve this issue. Will you hear me out?” This will provide a lead-in to addressing your concerns.
  3. It takes bravery and courage to ask for help. If you are struggling with school life, family life, or life in general, contact a trusted source to talk about getting help. There are resources available to you either at school or from a private provider such as a counselor or doctor. Talking with someone will help you sort out your struggles and develop an effective approach to handle anything. [6]
    • If you cannot stop crying and find yourself crying for most of the day, you should call a counselor or a doctor to seek help. If you have suffered a great loss, crying can be considered normal for a period of time. Grief counseling will help. [7]
    • Art therapy is also available and can be extremely beneficial. [8]
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      1. ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/9445-diaphragmatic-breathing
      2. ↑ https://positivepsychology.com/positive-self-talk/
      3. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-power-of-positive-thinking#1
      4. ↑ https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/the-power-of-suggestion-what-we-expect-influences-our-behavior-for-better-or-worse.html
      5. ↑ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/233479300_Get_'Real'_Does_Practicing_Speeches_Before_an_Audience_Improve_Performance
      6. ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/4062-chronic-illness
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      8. ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1071468/

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      To hide that you’ve been crying, head to a restroom and splash cool water on your face to reduce the redness. Then, blow your nose to get rid of any mucus and stop you from sniffling when you talk. If you’ve smudged any makeup, clean it from your face and reapply it so it looks normal. Once you’ve cleaned yourself up, take some deep breaths to calm yourself. Think about something you love to put a smile back on your face. When you leave the restroom, try to act normal so you don’t draw any attention to yourself. For more tips, including how to process the negative emotions that made you cry, read on!

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