7+ Signs That You're in a Healthy Relationship

Co-authored by Sarah Schewitz, PsyD and Hannah Madden

Last Updated: June 3, 2024

Most of us want to maintain a happy, healthy relationship. But what does a relationship like that even look like? With so many different types of couples portrayed in the media and online, it can be tough to figure out if you and your partner actually have a healthy relationship or not. Is your relationship full of positive signs or red flags? Read through our list of healthy relationship characteristics to check whether your connection with your partner is solid–and learn what you can do to keep it that way!

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You have the same basic goals.

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You and your partner’s life plans should be about the same. You don’t have to agree on everything—the color of your house or which car you want to get is totally up for debate. But if you want to live in the same town your entire life and your partner wants to move abroad, you might have some issues in a long-term relationship. ^{[1]
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- You don’t have to have your life plans figured out right away, especially if you’re young. However, it’s a good thing to keep in mind as your relationship gets more serious.
- Take time to learn about and understand each other's goals as well as your hopes and dreams.

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You trust each other.

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Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship. If you feel like you can talk about anything with your partner, you’re probably on the right track. Being able to share the good, the bad, and the ugly is an important part of a loving and caring partnership. ^{[2]
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- Regaining trust with someone is a hard road to go down. If you and your partner are having trust issues, a couple’s counselor may be able to help you through them.

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You spend quality time together.

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This could be going out on dates or having a quiet night in. If you and your partner spend time together without distractions (that means no phones!) then you’re setting yourself up for a healthy relationship. Try to carve out one or two nights a week where it’s just the two of you alone. ^{[3]
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- If you have kids, this might be a little tougher. Try setting aside one night a month to hit the town with your partner and leave the kids with a babysitter.
- Look for shared interests that you can bond over. Whether that means rock-climbing, playing D&D, or cooking, find something that you both enjoy and can do together.

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You communicate openly and regularly.

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Checking in with each other helps maintain your connection. Try to chat with each other once a day about something besides bills, work, or kids. Talk about deep topics, like your emotions, your relationship, or your life plans to stay on the same page and keep the relationship alive. ^{[4]
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- You should also be able to communicate about tough stuff. If you feel comfortable bringing up a problem or an issue with your partner, that’s a very good sign.
- Healthy communication involves sharing how you feel as well as understanding and validating your partner's perspective.

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wikiHow Quiz: Are My Partner and I Compatible?

Do you ever wonder just how good a match you and your partner are? If you’ve recently started dating someone, are you curious about how much potential you have as a couple? It’s hard to measure compatibility (there’s no “formula” for it, after all), but taking a look at many aspects of a relationship can reveal where you and your partner are in sync and where you might experience conflicts. Our comprehensive quiz can help you do just that—and determine your overall compatibility.

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