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A guide to what draws in a narcissist and how to repel them
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After dating one narcissist, it seems like wherever you turn there’s another one lined up to lure you in. Is there something about you that makes you attractive to narcissists? In this article, we’ve asked the experts why some people tend to draw in narcissists, why you might be attracted to them, and what you can do to get rid of them. If you’re ready to kick narcissists to the curb for good, keep reading.
This article is based on an interview with our licensed professional clinical counselor, Jay Reid, LPCC. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- Narcissists are attracted to people who are insecure or have low-self esteem. To narcissists, they seem easy to control and manipulate.
- Empathetic people are often attractive to narcissists. Narcissists love the attention and importance that sensitive people give them.
- Set boundaries about behaviors you won’t tolerate to deter narcissists. Communicate them with “I” statements and be clear about what happens if they’re violated.
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References
- ↑ https://codependencyrecovery.org/2023/02/05/3-reasons-codependent-people-attract-narcissistic-partners/
- ↑ https://codependencyrecovery.org/2023/02/05/3-reasons-codependent-people-attract-narcissistic-partners/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/highly-sensitive-refuge/201912/do-highly-sensitive-people-attract-narcissists
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/disorders/the-dance-between-codependents-narcissists
- ↑ https://www.lifecoach-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/six-reasons-you-keep-attracting-narcissists
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/recovering-narcissist/2019/08/5-powerful-ways-to-turn-off-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-how-to-protect-yourself-in-dating
- ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/understanding-narcissism/201711/why-am-i-attracting-so-many-narcissists
- ↑ https://spsp.org/news/character-and-context-blog/grapsas-brummelman-what-narcissists-want
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